Wholeness Begins with the Words You Speak

“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.” – Psalm 19:14

Words.

They slip from our lips like whispers on the wind, often unnoticed, yet carrying the weight of life and death.

Words shape us, mold us, and define the very essence of who we become.

The Bible says, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” (Proverbs 23:7)

What you think about yourself—what you say about yourself—becomes the framework of your reality.

If I see myself as less than, I will walk through life expecting rejection. If I believe I am unworthy, I will subconsciously sabotage opportunities for love and success. And the saddest part?

I’ll assume others see me the same way, even when they don’t.

Because the filter through which I view myself becomes the filter through which I see the world.

If I wear the lens of insecurity, I will assume people are judging me.

If I wear the lens of fear, I will expect failure.

If I wear the lens of rejection, I will hear condemnation in words that were never meant to harm.

This is why our words and our wholeness are deeply intertwined.

The Science Behind Our Words

This isn’t just Biblical truth—it’s scientific fact.

I’ve been deeply impacted by the book Switch On Your Brain by Dr. Caroline Leaf. She confirms what Scripture has told us all along: our words physically shape our brains.

Dr. Leaf references Dr. Eric Kandel, a Nobel Prize-winning neuropsychiatrist, whose research proves that our thoughts and words actually change the structure of our brain.

“Our choices—the natural consequences of our thoughts and imagination—get ‘under the skin’ of our DNA and can turn certain genes on and off, changing the structure of the neurons in our brains.”

That means every single toxic word we’ve ever spoken about ourselves—

“I’ll never be good enough.”

“I always mess things up.”

“No one really loves me.”

—has left a mark.

But the good news?

We can rewire our brains.

We can rebuild the ruins of our past.

We can speak life where death once reigned.

The Voices of My Past

I know this firsthand.

My childhood was filled with negative, demeaning words. Words that made deep impressions in my soul and mind, carving out pathways of fear, insecurity, and self-doubt.

I didn’t know it then, but those words were shaping who I believed I was.

And if you hear something enough, you don’t question it. You accept it as truth.

It took me years to realize that the voice inside my head—the one whispering You’re not enough. You never will be.—wasn’t my voice at all.

It was the echo of words spoken over me long ago.

Rewriting the Narrative

But here’s what I know now:

I cannot rewrite my past.

I cannot undo the words spoken over me as a child.

But I can—by the mercy of God—take control of the words I speak over myself today.

The Bible calls God the Repairer of the Breach.

“And they that shall be of thee shall build the old waste places: thou shalt raise up the foundations of many generations; and thou shalt be called, The repairer of the breach, The restorer of paths to dwell in.” – Isaiah 58:12

There are wounds in our souls that only God can heal. But we have a role to play, too.

We must align our words with His truth.

60,000 Words a Day

The average person speaks 60,000 words every single day.

How many of yours will glorify God?

How many will prophesy life over your future?

How many will reshape your mind to align with the Word of God?

Because whether we realize it or not, every word we speak—whether aloud or in the silence of our thoughts—is shaping our destiny.

Speak Life. Choose Life.

God has given us a choice:

“Life and death are in the power of the tongue.” – Proverbs 18:21

“I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live.” – Deuteronomy 30:19

If life and death are in the power of the tongue, then today—right now—you have the power to change everything.

• Speak God’s truth over yourself.

• Break the cycle of negative self-talk.

• Create a new future by aligning your words with God’s promises.

Because your words create your wholeness—and your wholeness creates your future.

And I don’t know about you, but I refuse to let the words of my past define the woman I am becoming.

What words are you speaking over yourself today? Leave a comment below or send me a message through this website and let’s talk about it!