The Comparison Trap

At the beginning of the month, a handful of church ladies and I attended a ladies’ luncheon where Sis. Tara Abernathy, NP, was the guest speaker. During her message, she shared the Oscar Wilde quote, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Her words struck a chord with me because I’ve often struggled with comparing myself to others—whether as a mom, a minister, or simply as a woman. Each time I fall into this trap, I’m left feeling frustrated and discontent because I lose sight of a simple truth: I am not them—I am me! This realization has been both humbling and freeing, reminding me to reflect on why comparison is harmful and how embracing God’s unique plan for my life brings true joy.

As I reflected on this, I couldn’t help but draw a parallel to my work in pharmacy. In healthcare, comparing the efficacy of medications is a purposeful, evidence-based process. Doctors and pharmacists evaluate treatments to determine which best suits a patient’s needs, considering factors like health history, allergies, and potential interactions. These comparisons aim to help, not harm, by providing personalized care that supports individual well-being.

This contrasts sharply with personal comparisons, which often focus on surface-level observations and lead to feelings of envy, inadequacy, or frustration. Unlike the productive comparisons in healthcare, comparing ourselves to others rarely brings any benefit. Instead, it distracts us from appreciating our blessings and walking in the unique purpose God has for each of us. As James 3:16 warns, “For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.”

Comparing Medications: A Path to Health

When healthcare providers compare medications, their goal is to determine what is safest and most effective for each individual. Even patients with the same condition may need different treatments due to their unique health profiles. This process is empowering because it focuses on personalized solutions tailored to individual needs. Proverbs 3:5-6 beautifully parallels this wisdom: “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Just as we trust doctors to guide our physical health, we must trust God to guide our spiritual journey.

These comparisons are not about declaring one treatment universally better but finding the best fit for a specific person. Similarly, 1 Corinthians 12:18 reminds us, “But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body, as it hath pleased him.” Each of us has a unique role and purpose in God’s plan, and comparisons should encourage growth, not competition.

Comparing Yourself to Others: A Path to Discontent

Personal comparisons, by contrast, often lead to discouragement. We see someone’s achievements, appearance, or lifestyle and feel as though we fall short. Yet these comparisons fail to account for the unique challenges, gifts, and circumstances God has given us. They rob us of gratitude and distract us from God’s blessings. Instead, we should embrace the truth of Jeremiah 29:11: “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” God has a plan specifically for you, and comparing yourself to others only clouds your ability to see it.

Embracing God’s Unique Plan

Just as pharmacists tailor treatments to a patient’s needs, God has uniquely designed each of us for His purpose. Romans 12:6 reminds us, “Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us.” Rather than focusing on what others have, we should steward the gifts and opportunities God has entrusted to us.

Instead of comparing outwardly, we should look inward with gratitude. Psalm 139:14 declares, “I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” God’s craftsmanship in our lives is intentional and unique. By trusting His plan and avoiding the trap of comparison, we can experience the peace and fulfillment that comes from walking in His will.

In the same way that comparing medications helps patients thrive physically, embracing our God-given uniqueness allows us to thrive spiritually. When we stop measuring ourselves against others and trust in God’s perfect plan, we discover true joy and contentment in the unique journey He has prepared for us.